pix 1 & 2: u see… her habit. hahahaha… as if her head was soooooo damn heaby lidat that she needed to place her ‘blund’ to suport (blund, ikea’s soft toy bear that we stocked up for her to play with. in another word, her ’smelly pillo’ lah…)

oh. tis is her ‘tactic’ in order not to get scolded. lol..

evytime wen she did something wrong, like curi curi sneak outside to kia kia, or anything at all that she felt is wrong… lol, and wen mummy shouted out for her, she’d dash back into the hse, and hid herself under the sofa… but!

WITH HER FAT ASS SHOWIN HALFWAY LIDAT!
(we suspected her theory was – “if I cant see u, u cant see me too!”) lol..

tis’ her 1st pix wen she came to us… hehe. thus the name. haha… =) cute eh?

hahhh… havent been spendin much time beroggin lately.
bz, kononnyee lah.. haha..

anwy, ntg related to the above, within this short 3 weeks’ time – i got this remarks pointed to me: “keep an eye shut, and an eye open…”

apparently, TAT wud do me much good. i duno. and guess wad, its from THREE totally unrelated persons. how ironic. lol.

cont later wen im home homeeee..

bleeerrhhhhhhh…..

and at tis point oso, im kinda determined to hav my hair cut. been telling my stylist i wana cut but for two freakin yrs i hav yet to. lol. so i am.

gudnite n gudrest.

Truths For Mature People
(http://bitsandpieces.us/2010/05/09/truths-for-mature-people/)

1. I think part of a best friend’s job should be to immediately clear your computer history if you die. (LIKE!!)

2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you’re wrong. (LIKE!!)

3. I totally take back all those times I didn’t want to nap when I was younger.

4. There is great need for a sarcasm font. (LIKE!!)

5. How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?

6. Was learning cursive really necessary?

7. Map Quest really needs to start their directions on # 5. I’m pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.

8. Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died. (LIKE!!)

9. I can’t remember the last time I wasn’t at least kind of tired.

10. Bad decisions make good stories. (LIKE!! AND HILARIOUS STORIES TOO AT TIMES!!!)

11. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren’t going to do anything productive for the rest of the day.

12. Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after Blue Ray? I don’t want to have to restart my collection…again.

13. I’m always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to my ten-page technical report that I swear I did not make any changes to. (LIKE!!)

14. “Do not machine wash or tumble dry” means I will never wash this – ever. (LIKE!!)

15. I hate when I just miss a call by the last ring (Hello? Hello? Damn it!), but when I immediately call back, it rings nine times and goes to voice mail. What did you do after I didn’t answer? Drop the phone and run away? (LIKE!!). (LIKE!!) (LIKE!!)

16. I hate leaving my house confident and looking good and then not seeing anyone of importance the entire day. What a waste. (LIKE!!)

17. I keep some people’s phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.

18. I think the freezer deserves a light as well. (LIKE!!)

19. I disagree with Kay Jewelers. I would bet on any given Friday or Saturday night more kisses begin with Miller Lite than Kay.

20. I wish Google Maps had an “Avoid Ghetto” routing option.

21. Sometimes, I’ll watch a movie that I watched when I was younger and suddenly realize I had no idea what the heck was going on when I first saw it.

22. I would rather try to carry 10 over-loaded plastic bags in each hand than take 2 trips to bring my groceries in. (LIKE!!)

23. The only time I look forward to a red light is when I’m trying to finish a text. (LIKE!!)

24. I have a hard time deciphering the fine line between boredom and hunger.

25. How many times is it appropriate to say “What?” before you just nod and smile because you still didn’t hear or understand a word they said? (LIKE!!)

26. I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars team up to prevent a jerk from cutting in at the front. Stay strong, brothers and sisters! (LIKE!!)

27. Shirts get dirty. Underwear gets dirty. Pants? Pants never get dirty, and you can wear them forever. (LIKE!!)

28. Is it just me or do high school kids get dumber & dumber every year?

29. There’s no worse feeling than that millisecond you’re sure you are going to die after leaning your chair back a little too far. (LIKE!!)

30. As a driver I hate pedestrians, and as a pedestrian I hate drivers, but no matter what the mode of transportation, I always hate bicyclists.

31. Sometimes I’ll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is.

32. Even under ideal conditions people have trouble locating their car keys in a pocket, finding their cell phone, and Pinning the Tail on the Donkey – but I’d bet my ass everyone can find and push the snooze button from 3 feet away, in about 1.7 seconds, eyes closed, first time, every time!

wen she saw a lady umbrella-ing herself and a lil furry furry dog =|

“while u SCREAM at ur woman, there’s a man wishing he could TALK SOFTLY to her ear.
while u HUMILIATE, OFFEND & INSULT ur woman, there’s a man FLIRTING with her and reminding her how wonderful she is.
while u HURT ur woman, there’s a man wishing he could make LOVE to her.
while u make ur woman CRY, there ‘s a man stealing SMILES from her.
and when u lost her,u say it’s all her fault coz she cheated on u…”

been idle for a loooong looooong time havent i. lol. i oso duno why. haha… anwy, digest =)

happie weekend peeps!

* * * * *

“when we spoke a few weeks ago, i asked u what u thought about ur parents. do u rmbr?”
sort of, i say.
“i asked if u felt they were perfect, or if they needed improvement.
and do u rmbr wad u said?”
“you said they werent perfect, but…”
but they dont need improvement? i say.
“becoz it means ur willing to accept ppl as they are. NOBODY IS PERFECT. not even mom n dad. tats okay.”

* * * * *

less than eight months from our first visit, he was dead.
so many times i told myself, “if i only had a few more minutes…”

* * * * *

“a lil girl came home from school wit a drawing she’d made in class. she danced into the kitchen, whr her mother was preparin dinner.
“‘mom, guess wad? she squealed, waving the drawing. 
her mother never looked up. 
“what?” she said, tending to the pots.
“guess what?” the child repeated, waving the drawing.
“what?” the mother said, tending to the plates. 
“mom, you’re not listening.”
“sweetie, yes i am.”
“mom,” the child said, “you’re not listening with your eyes.”

* * * * *

“… i tried to bump against it, so an apple wud fall into my hands. tat way, it wudnt feel like stealing. suddenly, i heard a voice from above yelling at me, ‘albert, it is forbidden!’ i jumped. i thought it was god.”
who was it? i asked. 
“a lady who lived upstairs.”
i laughed. not quite god. 
“no. but, we were part of each other’s lives. IF SOMEONR WAS ABOUT TO SLIP, SOMEONE ELSE CUD CATCH HIM.”

* * * * *

a man seeks employment on a farm. he hands his leter of recommendation to his new employer. it reads simply, “he sleeps in a storm.”

the owner is desperate for help. so he hires the man. 

several weeks pass, and suddenly, in the middle of thr nite, a powerful storm rips thru the valley. 

awakened by the swirling rain and howling wind, the owner leaps out of bed. he calls for his new hired hand, but the man is sleeping soundly. 

so he dashes off to the barn. he sees, to his amazement, that the animals are secure wit plenty of feed. he runs out to the field. he sees the bales of wheat have been bound and are wrapped in tarpaulins. he races to the silo. the doors are latched, and the grain is dry. 

and then he understands. “he sleeps in a storm.”

IF WE TEND TO THE THINGS THAT ARE IMPORTANT IN LIFE, IF WE ARE RIGHT WITH THOSE WE LOVE AND BEHAVE IN LINE WITH OUR FAITH, OUR LIVES WILL NOT BE CURSED WITH THE ACHING THROB OF UNFULFILLED BUSINESS. OUR WORDS WILL ALWAYS BE SINCERE, OUR EMBRACES WILL BE TIGHT. WE WILL NEVER WALLOW IN THE AGONY OF ‘I COULD HAVE, I SHOULD HAVE.’ WE CAN SLEEP IN A STORM. 

AND WHEN IT’S TIME, OUR GOODBYES WILL BE COMPLETE.

* * * * *

happiness in a tablet. this is our world. prozac. paxil. xanax. you dont even need a specific trauma; just “general depression” or “anxiety”, as if sadness were treatable as the common cold. 

much of wad we called “DEPRESSION” was rili DISSATISFACTION, the result of SETTING A BAR IMPOSSIBLY HIGH or EXPECTING TREASURES WE ARENT WILLING TO WORK FOR. 

but pills arent gonna change the fundamental problem in the construction. WANTING WHAT U CANT HAVE. LOOKING FOR SELF-WORTH IN THE MIRROR. LAYERING WORK ON TOP OF WORK AND STILL WONDERING WHY U WERENT SATISFIED -BEFORE WORKING SOME MORE. 

what makes a man happy?
happiness?
“tats rite. THE SOCIETY TELLS US WE MUST HAVE TO BE HAPPY – A NEW TIS OR TAT, A BIGGER HSE, A BETTER JOB. i know the falsity of it. the number of marriages tat hav disintegrated when they had all the stuff in the world. the families who fought and argued all the time, when they had money and health. HAVING MORE DOES NOT KEEP U FROM
WANTING MORE. and if u always want more – to be richer, more beautiful, more well known – you are missing the bigger picture.”

so, hav we solved the secret of happiness?
“i belif so,” he said. 
are u goin to tell me?
“yes. ready?”
ready. 
“BE SATISFIED.”
tats it?
“BE GRATEFUL.”
tats it?
“FOR WAD U HAVE. FOR THE LOVE YOU RECEIVE. AND FOR WAD GOD HAS GIVEN YOU.”
tats it?
he looked me in the eye. then he sighed deeply. 
“TATS IT.”

* * * * *

“i dun understand,” albert burst out to his father. “you’re a
religious man. ur cousin isnt. you pray evyday. he doesnt. they hav
evytg they want. and we hav nothing!”

his father nodded, then answered…
God and the decision he renders is correct.
God doesnt punish anyone out of the blue.
God knows what he is doing.

tat was the last time they spoke of it.
and the last time he judged life by what he owned.

* * * * *

“what profits a man if he gains the whole world, but loses his soul?”

* * * * *

what do ppl fear most abt death? i asked the reb.
“fear?” he thought for a moment. “well, for one thing, what happens
next? where do we go? is it what we imagined?”
thats big.
“yes. but there’s something else.”
what else?
he leaned forward.
“being forgotten,” he whispered.

* * * * *

he had officiated at nearly a thousand weddings, from d most basic to
the embarrassingly garish. many couples lasted. many did not.

can u predict wich marriages will survive? i asked.

“sometimes,” he said. “if they’re communicating well, they have a good
chance. if ghey havd a similar belief system, similar values, they
have a good chance.”

what about love?

“love they shud owes have. but love changes.”

what do u mean?

“love – the infatuation kind – ‘he’s so handsome, she’s so beautiful’
- tat can shrivel. as soon as something goes wrong, that kinda love
can fly out the window.”

“on the other hand, a true love can enrich itself. it gets tested and
grows stronger. like in Fiddler on the Roof. you remember? wen tevye
sings,’do u love me?’?”

“wen she says,’how can u ask if i love u? look at all i’ve done with
you. wad else wud u call it?”

“THAT kinda love – thd kind tat u realize you already have by d life u
created together – thats the kind that lasts.”

* * * * *

…”remember, d only difference between ‘marital’ and ‘martial’ is
where u put the ‘i’.”

* * * * *

“i tink ppl expect too much from marriage today,” he said. “THEY
EXPECT PERFECTION. EVY MOMENT SHUD BE A BLISS. TATS TV OR MOVIES. BUT TAT IS NOT THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE.”

“like sarah says, twenty good minutes here, forty good minutes there,
it adds up to sumtg beautiful. the trick is, WEN THINGS ARENT SO
GREAT, YOU DONT JUNK D WHOLE THING. its okay to have arguments. its okay tat the other one nudges u a little, bothers u a little. its part
of being close to someone.”

* * * * *

“but the joy u get from tat same closeness – wen u watch ur children,
wen u wake up n smile at each other – that, as our tradition teaches
us, is a blessing. people forget that.”

“… but real commitment? tat requires staying power – in faith and in
marriage.”
and if u dont commit? i asked.
“your choice. but u miss wads on the other side.”
wads on the other side?
“ah.” he smiled. “a happiness you cannot find alone.”

* * * * *

“… it does no good to be angry or carry grudges.”
he made a fist. “it churns u up inside. it does u more harm than the object of ur anger.”

so let it go? i asked.
 
“or dont let it get started in the first place,” he said.

* * * * *

“you know, in our tradition, we ask for forgiveness from everyone – even casual acquaintances. but with those we’re closest with – wives, children, parents – WE TOO OFTEN LET THINGS LINGER. dont wait. its such a waste.”

he tol me a story. a man buried his wife. at the gravesite he stood he stood by the reb, tears falling down his face.

“i loved her,” he whispered.
the reb nodded. 
“i mean… i really loved her.”
the man broke down.
“and… i ALMOST told her once.”
the reb looked at me sadly.

“NOTHING HAUNTS LIKE THE THINGS WE DONT SAY.”

* * * * *

quoted from ‘HAVE A LITTLE FAITH…’

a VERY very well written book – a reminder to the lil things in life tat often we overlooked. took for granted. or even delayed. or, the lil things tat we never even realised its importance… til being specifically pointed out to us.

i wanna walk in the rain,
so that wen i cry, i can call it raindrops…”

nice eh? i tot so too…. lol.